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Acceptance is the First Step Towards Learning


Every parent I have met, goes through the emotion of disbelief, pain, guilt, not necessarily in that order, when they come to know their child has ‘difficulty’ with learning (It’s not difficulty or disability but the brain’s ability to learn differentlyNeuroplasticity).

Going through these emotions is normal. But at the end of it, I have to rationalise and prepare to take the next step. The first step towards dealing with learning difference in our child is acceptance, which is unconditional. The moment we accept, the perspective shifts. I don’t look at the situation with trepidation and fear, but with acceptance and love. With acceptance and love comes the ability to find approaches to help our child become learning independent. This is important since young children require adult intervention to become learning independent.

In our culture, we place undue emphasis on the written word. When a child has difficulty with the written word, we bludgeon the child with an overdose of the written word in a misplaced sense of achieving learning. We will simply break the child.

Parents should come to terms that our child is learning different. 

That ability is an advantage since our children process information differently. The Dyslexic Brain can think in images and process information faster than a non-dyslexic brain. Equip yourself with knowledge about the learning difference your child has, you will be able to help them on their path towards becoming learning independent adults.

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